Beauty and The Geek

August 4, 2009 by sungirltan

Years ago, when I exporting diamonds for a living and trying to find myself I suppose, I had a co worker I was very chummy with. He was like a 25 year old Peter Kay – chubby, dishevelled and very dry and funny. That place was as boring as hell to work at but we entertained eachother by laughing at other people there for many months. He was about as northern as you can get and had ended up in the Leicester after following his girlfriend there while she studied. The girlfriend was equally chubby and cheerful and they seemed happy and well suited. When she finsihed her course they headed back up north and bought a house together close to their families. That was 5 years ago.

About a year ago I got a friend request on facebook from a name I well remembered but a face……..Peter Kay had a makeover, lost several stone, discovered fake tan, topman and had taken up residence at Toni and Guy. I was quite stunned. not in a good way. Relationship status – single, but soon replaced by a conveyor belt of page 3 stunna type girlfriends with major hair extensions and plastic boobs.

I had a trawl through his pictures the other day, no family, friends, fun like most people but a plethora of wannabe male model pouting poses – the one with the Beckham style leather jacket with nothing underneath made me laugh the most. All I could think of was the film Zoolander – and blue steel!!

And then I read his status from a few weeks ago….’there must be more to life than being really really ridiculously good looking’. I nearly wee’d .And wondered about post ironic irony.

You can have it all but how much do you want it..

July 29, 2009 by sungirltan

Being incensed always seems to tempt me back to blogging more quicly than joy. Sad as that maybe.

I am trying to finish my degree before I hatch. This is increasing difficult because a. I have until 21/08 to do it if i want to graduate this year. b. i keep falling asleep. c. i have tons of baby things to do and d. can’t seem to bloody think straight!!
I think i’d get a lot more done if i wasn’t silently ranting about a few things. I feel like i’m letting people down (mostly my daughter) if i don’t finish this year. I’m scared it will be even more difficult next year.

Sadly the main reason is that i don’t want to be at uni with or have to share my graduation with some people i can no longer tolerate being friends with. They would be ‘oh god i’m SO stressed about my law exam thats in 3 weeks and my 3 other essays i didn’t bother to do in the year i don’t know how im going to do it all but i’m going on holiday with my boyfriend for a week’ and also ‘oh god my observation was awful!! Bob was sooooo mean to me he’s so rubbish’ (thats Bob who’s a colleague and friend of mine who has assessed me twice (both v positive experiences) and whom i also trained as a practice assessor). Have you met my friends ‘get off your arse and do some work’ and ‘learn to take some fecking criticism and grow up’?? They are so much fun!

My midwife said yesterday very sagely that ‘its all well and good this idea that women should be able to still to everything while they are pregnant but the reality is – they can’t’ I felt a bit better after that.

Inshallah.

The Reading MeMe (nicked from hoverfrog)

July 19, 2009 by sungirltan

1. What author do you own the most books by?

Erm. This might be a toss up between Russel Hoban, Kate Atkinson and Bill Bryson. The latter two are neither here nor there but they pump out books and I tend to buy them in those 3 for 2 at Waterstones deals. Actually people buy me Bill Bryson. I know my Mum bought the Thunderbolt kid one – as yet unread. I think George might have bought A Walk in the Woods but I’m fairly sure Notes From a Small Island came from my mad aunty. Woods was my favourite I think and I romanced the idea of wlaking the Appalachan Trail for sometime afterward. I lived on a bit of it for a while too, up on the Blue Ridge in North Carolina which was so beautiful it made me cry several times.
I read all the Atkinson books because I loved Behind the Scenes at the Museum, even though I nearly had a nervous breakdown reading it the second time. The first time it was the burning pet shop that upset me and the line ‘the arms of jesus were very full that night’ has stayed with me ever since, so much so that I say it to distressed children (and husbands) quite often..as in ‘dave the goldfish? arms of jesus i’m afraid’. Second time around it was never mind the pet shop but the army dogs that nearly killed me. One of the childhood friends that goes off to WW1 ends up training dogs for the trenches. Apparently there was a national appeal and lots of families donated their pets for the war effort. Many did not survive the training, let alone the trenches being too terrified by the explosions and were destroyed at the kennels. You can imagine what happened to the rest and it echoed All Quiet on the Western Front’s descriptions of the fate of the war horses. That was quite early on. How I got through the rest of the book is beyond me. I gave it to A to read who abandoned and actually said recently to me ‘don’t even mention that bloody book to me!’ (she got me back by giving me Year of Wonder – scarred for life!).

Hoban’s books were all bought on purpose by me at full price. I was a bit obsessed with him for a while but the one I liked best was Amarylis Night and Day and I always think of it when I see Edward Hopper paintings or have very vivid dreams. I loved Turtle Diary too and didn’t realise until recently there was a film of it which I really must get around to seeing.

2. What book do you own the most copies of?

Hmm. I know I won two copies each of both The Mouse and His Child and The Dolls House. Just in case. I’ve actually separated the former between maternal and marital homes, should there be an earthquake/fire/flood/act of god. It is my favourite, favourite book of all time and I thank my headmaster’s wife for making it a set text back in II group, many years ago. There was a childrens bookshop down the street from our house in Sydney which had on sale several editions, one of which with colour plates done by Hoban’s wife Lillian. I sorely wish I’d bought one. I look forward to reading it to my daughter and will try not to crumble when after a long abscence, the mouse sets eyes on the elephant ‘he fell in love and prepared to meet his end’.
3. Did it bother you that both those questions ended with prepositions?

It bothers me more that Q.2 starts with ‘what’ and not ‘which’.

4. What fictional character are you secretly in love with?

Years ago I might have put Patrick Bateman. This time I might say Richard Novak from This Book Can Save Your Life.

5. What book have you read the most times in your life (excluding picture books read to children)?

Actually its Oliver Postgate’s Seeing Things. I remember rock journalist (see blog roll) being really sneery about this and shoving Phillip Roth paperbacks at me earnestly at the time. I loved that book and all the characters that he and Peter Firmin created. They were/are really special. I loved the Pingwings the most and even Shep likes Bagpuss.
I am about to order and reread the Derek Tangye books which start with A Gull on the Roof, knowing that I’m definintely at that life stage where I want to abandon city life and grow things and get a goat. Shep has been earnestly hoping that one of the baby seagulls across the road will fall off and be abandoned so he can fetch it in and tame it.

Actually on second thoughts it could well be Sue Townsend’s The Queen and I. Hilarious, warm and set in Leicester, the city whihc will always have a special place in my heart.

6. What was your favourite book when you were ten years old?

The Jungle Book. I had an audio book of it read by Windsor Davies. I still love it but it began a lifetime hatred of all things Disney who just trash everything and miss the point.

7. What is the worst book you’ve read in the past year?

Chastise me if you like but I couldn’t get through Sophies World. My lovely phillosophy lecturer pushes it as a short history of everything but god it was boring.

8. What is the best book you’ve read in the past year?

Probably the copy of This Book Can Save Your Life I bought in Oxfam. The surprse hit I couldn’t put down. Last year though it was without a doubt Urban Grimshaw and the Shed Crew (Bernard Hare). One of the ladies at the Service User and Carer group pressed it into my hands and implored me to read it as it was written by an Social Worker. She was right it was fanatastic and honest and sad. Later I looked him up and read some of his pieces for the Guardian (i think) which told the real fate of some of the characters in the book.

9. If you could force everyone you tagged to read one book, what would it be?

In the present climate it might be The Bookseller of Kabul, or indeed Brave New World. But actually its The Odyssey – it covers all the bases!

10. Who deserves to win the next Nobel Prize for Literature?

Not Yann Martel. He gave me nightmares.

11. What book would you most like to see made into a movie?

I’m With The Band (Pamela Des Barres) becauses its brilliant. Generally though books are trashed by being adapted.

12. What book would you least like to see made into a movie?

No more Dan Brown please. Its not real and its not literature ok?

13. What is the most difficult book you’ve ever read?

Samuel Beckett’s Watt.

14. Roth or Updike?

Roth.

15. David Sedaris or Dave Eggers?

No idea.

16. Shakespeare, Milton, or Chaucer?

Its a toss up between Shakespeare and Chaucer because I think I love The Tempest and A Knights Tale equally. Kingsley’s Feste in Twelth Night might swing it though.

17. Austen or Eliot?

Neither, I bloody hate them.

18. Name the last book by a female author that you’ve read.

When will there be good news? Kate Atkinson.

19. Name the last book by an African or African-American author that you’ve read.

A Piece of Cake, Cupcake Brown.

20. How about one from an Asian country or Asian-American?

I’m about to start Bluebird, Vesna Maric.

21. Why not name an Israeli/Arab/Turk/Persian writer, if you’re feeling lucky?

Hey come on…I already mentioned The Bookseller of Kabul.

22. Any other ‘marginalized’ authors you’ve read lately?

I read stacks of things by the ‘marginalised’ – I’m a social worker! If its not in the ‘painful lives’ section at Waterstones it doesn’t count. I do draw the line at that Torey Hadyn woman though and that other one.

Meanwhile…

July 15, 2009 by sungirltan

To cheer myself up I am going to show off the gift my lovely friend made for my daughter the other week. She is called Delia Doll.

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Lucky me

July 15, 2009 by sungirltan

I did a visit in a school with confirmed swine flu last week. I didn’t know that at the time. My doc has given me tamiflu because I am classed as vulnerable. I feel like utter shit and can’t keep down anything.

In short…

June 29, 2009 by sungirltan

I am madly trying to finish my placement before it finishes me. 9 days full time to go. I am feeling odd and sad about it. Once its over its over – no more fun times with refugees, cooking with boisterous ladies yelling in arabic, cuddling babies, laughing like drains with my service users, having really big talks about cultural differences and the oppression of women accross them, finding common ground at the ends of the earth, meeting some really wonderful, unforgettable characters.

I have turned 30, none too happily but I did have a lovely weekend in Padstow with Shep. We ate at Rick Stein’s Seafood Restaurant and it was fabulous. V tasty, tasty fish things to be had there! Padstow was also really beautiful and i’d like to go back many times. On the way back we stopped for ice cream and played with piglets – shep was of course in 7th heaven!

I am now uncomfortably pregnant. The baby wriggles a lot which is nice and kicks me in the guts which is horrid. The wee baby growing anymore seems inconcievable.

Meanwhile I finally have some stuff. I’ve collected a truck load of baby girl things from a friend with a 20 month old but nothing smaller than 3 months and I am still a bit confused about what its all for! However I did get a v comprehensive list from newshoes and ordered a ton of stuff from john lewis. Babies are expensive!

Because theres more to me than just a bump (just about….still!)

June 18, 2009 by sungirltan

We recently had a boss type person of Shep’s over for dinner with us plus PF. It was actually really nice and he was a very interesting chap. Today he sent me a thank you letter. Not an email/text….an actual letter – handwritten and more than two lines. I was astonished! And ever so touched. We have strict traditions in my family about thank you letters for christmas and birthday presents but even those have transferred to emails over the years. I’m just made up!

In other news I have had my second to last practice observation and my last meeting with practice supervisor, practice learning manager and academic tutor. I’ve had some really strong positive feedback which has been nice and a change from stupid assessors telling me I shouldn’t be letting the children I work with touch me (children i work with range from 4 months to 11 – the ones i see most are 2 year olds who climb all over me). Consequently I have been asked to speak at the uni in September to new social work students about social work in the third sector and opportunities to evidence theory in practice. I said yes, if I haven’t hatched by then.

Meanwhile….

June 17, 2009 by sungirltan

I seem to winning the virtual balloon eating/easter egg impression contest. I just read on one of my pregnancy newletter/email/junk type things that the bebe will now undergo a growth spurt until week 29. Great stuff. I can’t do my shoes up as it is!
The bebe also wriggles like mad most of the time now which reassures me that it is infact still alive!

Posh Friend came to visit for the weekend so I have been rejuvinated by shopping and general girly company. Shep nad I let PF have a go on the doppler and listen to the baby heartbet which she thought was so amazing. I suppose for me the novelty of that has sort of worn off because I can feel her kick all the time.
I had the 3d scan at a Bump2Baby show in Exeter with the osle purpose of finding out baby gender. Now that I know she’s a giel she actually has some stuff!! Well 1 baby outfit which my Mum bought her from posh organic baby baby compnay, 3 washable nappies with velour bum covers in bright colours, 1 wooden toy, a wooden toothbrush from posh organic baby compnay again, 2 x free swaddling blankets and some crayons. PF bought her a baby blanket with little ducks on it and yet another jellycat toy – this one is a monkey to go in the pram! OK so I need about a thousand other things but hey its start!

GUESS WHAT???

June 16, 2009 by sungirltan

ITS A GIRL!!!!

(i had a 3d scan – i’ve seen her bum and everything)

(thank bloody god for that!)

Protected: You are no longer a fruit….

June 8, 2009 by sungirltan

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